May is Mental Health Month #5


RESILIENCE is the capacity of a system, enterprise, or person to maintain its core purpose integrity, in the face of dramatically changed circumstances.  Andrew Zolli                       

Most of us have multiple roles in life; spouse, partner, parent, child, employee, friend, employee to name but a few, and at various times they can be stimulating, challenging and rewarding. It’s easy when things are on track and running smoothly to just juggle all the roles and keep going. Occasionally, the universe throws us a curve ball, and our resilience takes a dip. During those times we need to rely on personal resources to cope with whatever life throws at us, as we develop the ability to bounce back. We all have a degree of resilience which allows us to face a problem or challenge, overcome it, and get back to life a little bit stronger and a little bit wiser. Resilience is a part of positive mental health. It’s coping with adversity in ways that boosts our own well-being and protects us from becoming overwhelmed. How can we build more resilience?  It may sound like a daunting task. Consider the following; currently we are living in uncharted territory, with numerous challenges. How are you coping?  Are you aware of the signs and symptoms your resiliency may be declining?  What are the common factors that affect your ability to bounce back? As you continue to navigate the current turbulent times, take a moment to stop and reflect on the times you successfully waded through the crashing waves of chaos and landed safely on shore. The ability to plan for what comes next might be elusive, however, navigating emotional wellness during uncertain times is well within reach. Resilience can be learned. It involves developing thoughts, behaviors, and actions that allow us to recover from stressful events in life. Practice regular self-assessment to understand how you’re coping and when it might be a good idea to ask for help. Consider these steps to develop your resilience and enhance your mental well-being:

  • Prioritize Your Health
    • Quality food intake
    • Sleep is essential
    • Exercise regularly
    • Mindfulness/spiritual freedom
  • Develop a Caring Community
    • Build a supportive network of friend and mentors
    • Spend time with loved ones
    • Communicate with clear intent (Emotional Regulation)
    • Eliminate toxic relationships/minimize conflicts
  • Cope Resiliently
    • Listen without judgement
    • Maximize goals
    • Optimize time
    • Develop relaxation response

Building on these skills will enhance the qualities you already have and empower you to rely on them to better navigate stressful waters and find peace.  Visit resources for additional tips and resources. The Arlington EAP is offering a Gratitude Group to promote well-being.